This Valentine's Day | How to fall in love with yourself.

Back in January, I set my goals for 2020 and one of them is to take a better care of myself. Learning from past experience, I chose to set a goal each month. That is instead of having yearly goals, most of which I never accomplished.

For me, monthly goals are more realistic, because priorities have a tendency to shift. Unexpected things may happen in from month to month.


When I keep my goals small and simple, I have a better chance to accomplish them. That for me is a win!


During this month of love, I'm committed to practicing self care. Loving yourself is one quality in life that easily gets overlooked. We often get caught up in our daily routine and the overall busy-ness of doing tasks and forget to invest in ourselves. Practicing self care is one way to invest in our well being, and it starts with our mindset. It starts by adjusting what we believe and what we tell ourselves we need.


After all, what we think of ourselves is more important than what others think about us. Our belief systems have a big impact on many aspects on our life, whether it is in our relationship, business, career, or community.  


Here are some daily practices we can do this month to help us live a fully happy life: 

1. Acceptance. 

Sometimes I wish I had a magic wand to remove all problems I have. Whether it is our weight, skin, career, or relationship, we all have certain expectations and think if we just meet those expectations, we are going to be happy. 

But if there is one thing I've learned, happiness comes from within. Which means it comes from you! Acceptance is the key. Tell your self that you are enough! Nothing is this world can deny that we are loved. Do not let commercials, social media, or your surroundings tell you otherwise. 

Once we learn to accept ourselves, we begin to love ourselves, and the comparisons to other people lessen. That is so critical to learning to appreciate what we have and who we are. Ultimately we'll gain confidence, become more connected to our surroundings and we will see the good things in life that we have. Of course, being happier reduces anxiety and stress level for a healthier life.

"Believe in good things and it will happen to you."

2. Keep a gratitude journal.

Pay attention to the beauty that surrounds you. It could be as simple as appreciating something beautiful you've walked by today, looking at your baby's smiles and simply feeling grateful for the life you have nurtured and nourished. Find the highlights in your life. Things that make you proud, make you feel confident, and make you feel strong and beautiful. Write about it in a journal. It's okay to read it over and over again, as a reminder that life is beautiful. Be proud of what you've became and be grateful for that. 


"You can't be grateful and unhappy at the same times. So choose being grateful!" 


3. Prioritize yourself. 

Living a balanced life is almost impossible. Life is about priority. Today's priority may be different than tomorrow's. In my case, if I know there is a day where (god forbid!) nobody is sick, no other areas in our household need an immediate attention or action, then that is the day for me! That means I create a "me" day and don't (ever!) feel guilty about it. 

So make a day to prioritize you! Just like a car needs fuel to function, we need time to rejuvenate, and to refuel. Don't wait until the laundry is done and put away. Our body will function better when our body and mind are renewed.  Do what you love, or what you've been dreamed of. The tap dance lesson you've been imagined?  Sign up for it and have fun! 


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